In the Orthodox Jewish community
in Jerusalem, a clandestine group called the Orthodykes exists to support lesbians
who are deeply religious, but with a sexual orientation outside of what is deemed
socially acceptable. Three women are part of this film, which won the Israeli
Oscar for Best Documentary. Miriam, who doesn't show her face, is married
and the mother of ten children. For twenty years, she has been praying that she
won't be tested, so she tries not to look at women and is careful about the friends
she chooses. Her fear takes a lot of energy, but she feels that she has too much
to lose to risk being with a woman. Married and a mother of six, Ruth is
filmed through a curtain to maintain her anonymity. She began having a relationship
with another woman, and although her husband found out, they stay together for
the children. Ruth sleeps over with Neta twice a week and sees her almost every
evening. Her eldest daughter left home when she found out what was really going
on. Yehudit is the only one of the three who doesn't hide, although her
father is a rabbi. She is told that if she doesn't want to marry a man, she should
become chaste and devote her life to charity. She and her girlfriend Tal hold
a joining ceremony, and her parents don't attend. The film ends with Gay
Pride in Jerusalem, a world away from Miriam and Ruth. An Orthodox protester shouts,
"How can the Messiah come if sperm is wasted?" |